How Can Women Consider This as a Joke

There are always two sides to a story, and what you see is not always the true story. When I first saw this joke pasted on Facebook, I did not find it funny at all. And what disturbs me even more than it being considered a joke is how so many women who commented on the post, were able to laugh about it and become defensive over one woman who also did not find it funny.

Instead, I see it as an eye-opener. A glimpse at a world many of us choose not to see for whatever reason or excuse there may be. Here's what was written. Now, tell me. Do you see this as a joke?






(Before marriage)

Husband: I can't hardly wait.
Wife: Do you want me to leave?
Husband: don't even think about it.
Wife: Do you love me?
Husband: Of course, always have, always will.
Wife: Have you cheated on me?
Husband: No, why you even asking?
Wife: Will you kiss me?
Husband: Every chance I get.
Wife: Will you hit me?
Husband: Hell no, are you crazy?
Wife: Can I trust you?
Husband: Yes.
Wife: Darling
(After marriage. Read from bottom to top)



Joy Smith also known as The Insane Writer, is the author of the Sci-Fi novel, The Generation. You can email her at silent_beautie@yahoo.com She can also be found on Twitter @theinsanewriter and you visit her official website at www.theinsanewriter.com.



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Science Experiements and Putting up With Jerks

Umm hgh human growth hormone products that fight against aging naturally? I don't believe it! But should you want to see for yourself, then do a little research and you may be as intrigued, yet shocked as I am.

I honestly wonder why women would want to turn back the hands of time just to impress their guy. Now don't get me wrong on this, it's one thing to want to look nice for your guy, but if he can't except the fact that you're growing old and wants you to do something about it or you've suggested on your own that you'll do something about it, you need to boot him right out the door.

Women make so many sacrifices when it comes to trying to please a man. They will bend over backwards just to get their attention and take his BS when he says, he doesn't like the way you look. And we wonder why our daughters have such little self-esteem. Seriously hun, he's just not worth it.

Perfection isn't Wonderful

Whoever said that perfection is a wondrous thing has never met a real woman. Today as I tried to relax in the bathtub(made it 2 minutes before the first knock on the bathroom door came!), I took a good long look at all of the new scars that have suddenly and not so suddenly invaded by skin.

First there are the tiny blood vessels, mostly on my upper left thigh. And then there are the stretch marks that have left their marks from pregnancy. All the way from my tummy to my hips and thighs. And finally there are permanent razor burn looking dots all over my legs which do nothing at all for my already dry skin. And then I realized, I am far from perfect. Yet, these are the scars that prove I exist in this insane world and that I have lived life.

While not every mark has to be left in order to prove that we exist, not ever little
imperfection means that we are less than perfect either. For me, I would much rather have lived than look like a plastic doll that had no life at all.

Win a Free Copy of Author Julia J. Austin's, "It Starts With You."

About a month ago I had the privilege of obtaining a copy for review, of Author Julia J Austin’s book, “It Starts With You.” The book is endorsed by Dr. John Gray, the author of the "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus" series. "It Starts With You" is for women who want to find a relationship that is right for them.

Read My Review!
Have you ever wondered if the man you are with is the right one for you? Or maybe you’re just not sure how to find the right guy in the first place. Julia J. Austin’s, “It Starts With You” is straightforward advice on how to find the right guy or keep the one you already have.

She discusses more than just how to find the right guy, however. Julia teaches us that we also need to take a look at ourselves if we want to find the right one for us. She also shows us how to hold onto the guy who may already be in our lives.

Julia also shares what it’s like to go from man to man and marriage to marriage, in desperation to have someone in her life. Her story is not a sad ending however, as she also shares her knowledge on how eventually finds the love of a lifetime. The kind of love every woman hopes and dreams for.

The best thing about the book is, it contains quizzes that allow you to learn who you truly are and what you really want in a relationship with your own thoughts and ideas.

Julia J Austin’s, “It Starts With You” is as refreshing as it gets, when it comes to the truth about relationships and what matters the most. This is definitely a book for any woman who is looking to for the answers to her own relationship or lack of.

It’s well worth the read.

Win the Book!
Because Julia Austin's book is a positive inspiration towards relationships and self -esteem, I am giving away my copy of the book. The book is a little bent due to being read, but it's still in almost new shape.

To be eligible to win Julia Austin's book, “It Starts With You".... Here's what you need to do:

1. Send me a comment at my Just Believe Blog's Contest Post and tell me why you should win this book. Be sure you leave your email in case you're the winner!
2. Write a Post on your own blog about this contest and Send me the link.
3. Subscribe to Just Believe. It's Free!

That's it! Pretty simple. The contest will run until August 31st. After that, I'll select the best answer from the comments. If you win, you'll have 1 week to respond to my email with your name and address on where to send the book. If I don't here from you, I'll choose the 2nd best answer and that person will win. GOOD LUCK TO THOSE WHO ENTER!

The winner will be announced on a future post.

Outside of the US: Unfortunately I can only ship the book within the US for now. I am hoping to change this in the near future!

Protecting the Future

Life can be hard, especially on a woman. We tend to take a majority of the punches when it comes to life. We are a lot stronger than many may realize, but eventually our bodies give out and there's only so much we can do about it. C'elle Stem Research wants to be able to change all of that.

C'elle Stem Research is dedicated to providing the latest in research for women and life. They provide a way to fight diseases, treat simple sports injuries and even improve the process of aging.

How they do it is as unique as it is interesting. C'elle uses a woman's menstrual blood to harvest cells and provide a future for herself as well as her loved ones, for free.

All it takes is one simple visit and C'elle can begin providing a future for you or your loved one. There is no pain involved and the procedure is quick and easy.

If you're interested in learning more, you can visit the C'elle website or you can take a look at what other women have had to say with C'elle Client Testimonial. It's that easy. Really.

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Babies and Research

C'elle Research seems to be a popular subject lately, especially when it comes to women. Cryo-Cell Innovative Stem Cell Solutions is offering moms the chance to use their baby's umbilical cord to use for your child if it is needed in the future. It may also be used for a sibling as well.

Cryo-Cell's "Protect Baby, Protect Mom" can help save both baby and mom, again with the use of baby's umbilical cord. This unique procedure can allow baby, siblings and maybe even other family members as well as mom, a chance at a better life when it comes to fighting diseases, diabetes and more. Currently umbilical cord stem cells are used to treat over 70 diseases!

"Protect Baby, Protect Mom" Special Limited-Time Introductory Offer is a chance for you to be a part of this unique procedure. Want to know more? If you are expecting and would like more information, Cryo-Cell can rush you a free rush cord blood kit overnight or same-day just in time for the delivery of your newborn baby.

For more information, please visit the website at the links offered above.

Research in the Making

Sometimes life deals us a pretty shitty hand. Sometimes more often than not. Yet despite it all, we move on and keep living our lives as we have done since the dawn of time. It's a natural habit that we have and probably always will have. For women it's even more so. We are the rock that picks up the pieces when our loved ones fall. We support our spouses until the end no matter what the consequences may bring and we give all that we can to this insane world and our loved ones that are a part of it.

C'elle Research is one of the many worthy causes that women have taken an interest in. They provide research through the use of menstrual fluid to open up the possibilities of a better tomorrow. What if C'elle could use that fluid to treat life-affecting disorders like diabetes, stroke or heart disease? Or heal wounds such as burns or permanent scarring? Would you give to the cause? Would you become a part of their research?

If not, why? If so, what are you waiting for? You could chance a life you know. You could become a part of something spectacular. You could bring a simple smile to someone who has lost hope. You could be someone’s hero.

Please Visit: http://www.celle.com For more information on how you can become someone's hero. Be a part of something spectacular. Be a hero.



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Women in Film

It's not often that I find something truly amazing in this insane world. The video below is one of those truly amazing moments involving women in film. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

glumbert - Women in Film

Author Suze Orman is a Financial Goddess. Enough Said!

Yesterday I was one of the millions who had the opportunity to download Suze Orman's "Women & Money" for free, thanks to one of my favorite debt blogs, "Blogging Away Debt."

Although the free download offer has ended, please don't let that stop you from reading Suze Orman's financial books. Suze has been featured on Oprah many times. Her advice for women and finance is astounding. I can honestly say, I have never been able to really sit down and take to heart any kind of financial advice...that is until I read a copy of Suze Orman's, "Women and Money." Now this insane writer is hooked and can't wait to read the rest of her financial books for women.

"Women and Money" is pretty simple and straight forward. I think my favorite part of the book is however, how Suze tells us how it all began for her. She is a true inspiration when it comes to women and financial success.

To find out more, please consider picking up a copy of "Women and Money", whether it be from your local bookstore, online or your local library. Believe me, it's well worth the read.

Silent Cries. A Look at Domestic Abuse

A few months ago I was giving the opportunity by Shelby Sledge of Phenix & Phenix to review a book that actually hits home for me. The book, "Silent Cries" by Lisa J. Peck, is about one woman's struggle with domestic violence. Below is my review.


Silent Cries by Lisa J. Peck

It's too easy to think that a simple slap in the face or grasp of a wrist isn't abuse. It's too easy to assume that shaking a fist in the face or threatening to hurt someone isn't abuse. It's too easy to think that the person you love isn't really an abuser or a victim of abuse.

In "Silent Cries", Charlene is a mother and a wife to those around her, but behind closed doors she is a victim of domestic abuse. Through emails to her friend Judy, she slowly begins to realize that her husband isn't the wonderful man she always thought he was.

Soon Charlene breaks free from her husband's grasp, but what she thinks is a simple road ahead of her will prove that things are never as easy as they seem. Slowly she begins to re-discover what life is truly like and face her greatest fear of all, "falling in love again."

"Silent Cries" is a must read no matter who you are. If you have ever been in an abusive relationship, if you still are, or even if you may think you know of someone who is, this book is for you.

The characters may be fictional, but these are true fears based on what goes on behind the closed doors of domestic abuse.

It's a subject that should not be ignored and Author Lisa J. Peck is no stranger to that. As a matter of fact she has been a victim of abuse herself. She is a true inspiration in both writing and in life.

One final Note: Please remember that domestic abuse does not have to be physical. Emotional abuse can be just as dangerous. I know because I am a survivor of emotional abuse.

Real Beauty

One of the main reasons I signed up to be a part of the blog for a year campaign is to begin my website and dream in helping those who suffer with low self-esteem. Well, today I found my chance to advance in that dream/goal.

 

Dove Beauty is allowing women to host workshops that encourage girls to better their self-esteem.

A few minutes ago, I signed up for the workshop and DVD/CD that will allow me to help others with low self-esteem issues. I truly believe this is the start I am looking for. It actually takes a few months for the DVD/CD to arrive, but once it does, I want to talk to our local high school here about hosting a workshop for the girls here. If that goes well, I'd like to host workshops for the other high schools in our area. I also want to start an online blog for all of this. I am really excited about this project. I believe this could be a start of something awesome. To better our outlook at true beauty. I have so many other ideas about this project that it's almost unreal! I can't wait to get started!

If you're interested in hosting your own Dove Beauty Workshop check out their page at: Campaign For Real Beauty. If you do decide to host a workshop I would love to know about it! By the way, in case you're wondering, it's all free. :)

What Women Are Really Thinking

My aunt sent this to me through email and I thought I would share it with you. I found it to be interesting since most of these are true in one way or another.I added my own comments in red.

 

 

1. Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up. Almost always true!

2. Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house. The first part can be true, but I've been known to actually be ready in five minutes! The second part to this is true.

3. Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine. Yep. I most certainly have to agree with this one. It can also mean we just don't want to tell you and you should already know.hehe I know you guys are not psychic either.

4. Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It! Okay everyone, repeat after me... DON'T DO IT!!!

5. Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.) For me it usually means, "I give up."

6. That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake. If it's not okay, I'll say so.

7. Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or Faint. Just say you're welcome. Yep

8. Whatever: Is a women's way of saying F@!K YOU! Well, my husband tends to say this on a daily basis to me. So I hope this one is not true!

9. Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has
told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking "What's wrong?" For the woman's response refer to #3. Exactly.

 

What Men Consider Beautiful. Dare I Dream?

I've always had a love for beauty as far back as junior high. At one point in my life (I think right around junior high, actually) I even wanted to go to cosmetology school. It was a way for me to allow others to feel good about themselves. I see it as a wonderful thing when others who have experienced low self-esteem at some time in their life, are finally able to smile and love the way they feel and look about themselves.

One thing that has always baffled me is, how men see women and their true beauty. What do they find beautiful in a woman. I was actually surprised at their answers and I think you will too. So, I wanted to share this with you. Let me know what you think.

What Men Consider Beautiful

 

The Truth About Men and Even Women!

This came from Relationshipheadquarters.com I came across it while looking at paid opportunities. Unfortunately I didn't get to put in for this one, but I thought it would be interesting to comment on each of Bob Grant's 50 Truth's About Men. What do you think? Do any of these apply to your guy? I've noticed quite a few that do and then some that don't. Some actually worry me because if that's what they are thinking?? Wow.

50 Universal Truths About Men

By: Bob Grant, L.P.C. “The Relationship Doctor”

1. Why should I remind you that “I love you?” I already told you once. It's nice to hear because it makes me feel special. Doesn't it make you feel special as well? I love hearing the words "I love you" from the man I want to spend the rest of my life with.

2. I’ll do anything for sex; even commit to you for life. This makes me sad. Why would someone commit to a person for life just for sex? You should want to be with someone for more than just sex. If you're not in a relationship heart and soul, how fair is that to the other person?

3. I hate arguing with you. I’d much rather find a compromise. I have to agree with this one. Whether we like to admit it or not, some of us do tend to argue rather than try to sit down and find a compromise. I'll admit I am one of those women! This one opened my eyes.

4. I love long hair. Sorry, but I do. I can understand that. I love long hair too. On a guy that is! HA!

5. When you speak softly, I can’t help but listen. I had to think about this one for a second and this one is right. I tend to hear, "What?" and then when I do speak up, I'm ignored.lol

6. I need to be told “no” sometimes. Not a lot, but every now and again reminds me that you are expensive. But when we do say no, we hear whining and complaining or you just do it anyway. Girls can be this way too, however.

7. Please don’t ask me how you look unless you’re willing to trust my answer. Good Idea!

8. My eyes notice other women a lot more when you are upset with me. Not always true. When you're with someone, I've always believed you should be with just that person. Not off flirting with a woman/man right in front of his/her face. Sigh. Viewing another woman/man is a natural thing to do and isn't always a big deal unless you start drooling and bragging that he or she is better looking, etc. Besides, even if you're upset, why would you want to start noticing other women if we're still in your heart? I just don't get this one.

9. When you’re happy with me I can’t help but want to please you. Really? Then why am I always on the back burner? Does this mean I always anger you in some way?

10. If I don’t feel I can make you happy, it makes me feel less than a man. Then listening would be a nice start. Appreciating the person would be another nice start.

11. I expect you to be ready when I pick you up. Maybe we should pay more attention to this one.lol I am bad about not being ready when I say I am.

12. Cigarettes make any woman look cheap and easy. I think it depends on the guy. I don't smoke, so this one doesn't apply. Besides it doesn't mean we are cheap and easy. My grandmother and aunts smoked and believe me they were/are some tough mean bitches! They never took shit off people either.

13. I'm scared if I let a woman inside my heart, she'll take advantage of me. We can understand that. We women are scared of the very same thing from men.

14. If you can’t stand up to me when I’m a brat, you’re too weak for me to open up to when I’m upset. Why make life soo hard?

15. Sitting quietly next to me after you’ve made me a meal is your get-out-of-the-doghouse-free ticket. You’ll be surprised how quickly I can forgive. Soo what about for you? Saying an I'm sorry would be nice when you've done something wrong.

16. You did something hurtful. If I never bring it up, I’m considering leaving you. This one bothers me. Talk it out. Don't shut out the person you love no matter how upset you may be.

17. I don’t read minds. Remember, I’m not a girl. You're right. Another eye opener. Just remember we can't always read minds either.

18. You may know fashion, but I wish you’d dress to please me, not other women. Well, I personally don't dress to please other women. I dress to please myself. When I do ask for an opinion it's "Wear what you want, I don't care."

19. If I’m losing my hair, it’s not funny. Would you like me to joke about your weight? I don't know about other women, but I wouldn't find this funny. I can understand a guy's point of view on this one though.

20. When I talk to you about golf and you act bored, it would be nice for you to remember all the times I listened to you talk about what is important to you. And when was that?

21. The woman I love is easy to please. She appreciates the effort I put into making her happy, even if I get the details wrong. What about the man? Women are not perfect either. We shouldn't be expected to be.

22. You look hot in a dress. If this came from the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with, who'd actually say that, then "Thank You." But I don't see this happening anytime soon.lol

23. I hate being told what to do when I don’t ask for help. It makes me feel you’re my mother. Here's another one of those eye openers.

24. If you sleep over, I might eventually marry you, but I’m less motivated. I dunno about other women, but this just made me feel really crappy. Sigh. If I am with a guy it's because I am with them, not because I want to get laid or jump into bed with them right away.

25. During sex my ears are as sensitive to your words as your skin is to my touch. Really? I'll have to try the words.

26. I need some type of signal or cue to walk across the room and approach you. What if you’re married!? I've never had a problem with a guy approaching me, even when it's obvious from the wedding ring that I am married. I'd rather be out with my guy anyway. And I certainly have no desire to pick up guys.lol

27. It makes me feel like you trust me when you ask for my advice. Generally if I ask for advice I get a negative remark, like why are you asking me about that crap?

28. It feels competitive when you insist on being in charge. Ditto

29. Being respected is more important to me that being loved. How about an equal amount of each?

30. I want every guy to envy me when we arrive as a couple. Please don’t let yourself go. Then, please start caring and stopping saying you don't care. Then let's go places together other than wal-mart.

31. When I’m upset I am very tone sensitive. How you say it is more important that what you say.. Yeah, I have to agree with this one. I've even been told this by a guy.

32. I hate it when you minimize/ignore my compliments. It makes me what to stop giving them. This would be nice if I were to get complimented.

33. I’m more insecure than you think. Why do you think I need your respect so much? Why are guys okay with this, but if a woman would like respected as well, it's not okay?

34. I don’t always know how I feel. That’s why I don’t tell you. We still don't understand why, but this is another eye opener in a sense.

35. I don’t need you to do things for me. What I crave is being able to please you. We women enjoy doing things for a guy. I don't know too many guys who enjoy being able to please a woman (aside from sex).

36. If I do one thing and say something contradictory – Go with my actions, that will always tell you what’s in my heart. Yeah, sometimes that worries me.

37. I find myself wanting to please you when you simply smile at me without asking for something. (Like a favor). Then why doesn't this ever happen for me?

38. I really don’t want to hear about any of your ex-boyfriends, regardless of the point. Okay ladies, another eye opener!

39. If I don’t share what I’m thinking it’s because I don’t think you will listen without interrupting. I'll admit it, I'm an interrupter. Sorry about that. I need to open my eyes more on this one as well.

40. I don’t like to argue and I don’t like to guess what’s wrong. Just tell me so I can fix it. I think I am speaking for the rest of the women when I say, ditto!

41. I love it when you put your hair in a pony tail. Yes, it’s a Freudian thing. I think this one depends on the man.

42. Don’t ask me, “Are you going to wear that?” when I’m already dressed. Another Good Idea!

43. A gentleman should always be respected by his lady in public, even if she is disagreeing with him. Same goes for the guy I would think.

44. If you don’t believe you’re pretty, you won’t believe me when I tell you, no matter how many times I say it. You're right. This is another eye opener in a sense. I know a few guys who tend to brag about how pretty another woman is or how hot she is, but will never admit it to the person they are with. Sad. Sigh.

45. It isn’t how much you weigh; it’s that your body is proportionate which is so attractive. We can understand if the weight is dangerous, but why should this even be an issue? If we have a butt that's larger than the rest of our body, what's the problem? Okay so maybe I just don't get this one or I am not reading it right?

46. Sometimes I have weird and strange thoughts. I don’t take them seriously and I don’t want to share them with you (or anyone). Thank You for the insight. Another eye opener.

47. Sometimes you really don’t want to know what I’m thinking. See above. I agree, but we're still going to ask! lol

48. If you cheat on me, it is nearly impossible for me to get over it. We feel the same way when you do it to us, so please don't expect us to just get over it.

49. I don’t remember everything about our relationship and that doesn’t mean I don’t love you. You're right.

50. I need some time to myself to calm down when I’m upset so that I don’t say something I will regret. I should know this one by now. Sigh.

Is This Really a Guy's Worst Nightmare? Part 2

You decide and then... Remember, all women are beautiful.


Want more proof?
Check this out: Before and After of Faith Hill on Redbook

Is This Really a Guy's Worst Nightmare

If you think you're favorite female celebrity is a bombshell with all of that makeup, what will you think when she's all natural? Will you still think she is still just as beautiful? Or will you turn her down because she's just the average girl next door?

If you would still see her as the same, do you see the librarian with glasses or that shy lunch lady or bus driver, just as beautiful?

The next time you find yourself in the presence of a woman, remember that makeup is only an illusion of an already beautiful woman.

She Wasn't Born a Supermodel

I can't stress enough how we must be perfect to be beautiful. This is what the media sees, this is what our youth sees. It's not true! We do not have to be perfect because we are already beautiful. Each in our own way. Don't let those magazines fool you. Here's a great example from Dove Evolution of just how a supermodel is made. Thanks goes out to http://www.jodiebsblog.blogspot.com/ for the video! Check it out!

Free Music Downloads to Help Moms/Women in Need!!!

I ran across this and thought it was awesome. Viactiv, the multivitamin for women, is giving away free music downloads from up and coming female singers. Every time you download a song, they will donate 10 cents to Dress for Success.

Dress for Success is a non-profit organization that help women find a job and give them a suit for their interview. Once they have a have, they are able to receive another free suit or separates for their new job. How cool is that???

This is a great opportunity to help moms and women better their situation all for downloading free music! You can't beat that! Now while I must admit their selection of artists are what I normally listen to, I did find Kim Emerson to be an awesome singer! Check out and download her song So Excited, while you're there.

Putting a Smile on Womens' Faces Everywhere

This was too cute not to share with our women/mom bloggers!!!

Plain is Beautiful! Here's The Proof!!!!!!!!!

For all of those who've been called plain, Check this out, then tell those negative no gooders to stick it where the sun doesn't shine!!!!!!!!!